I hinted earlier that my reduced frequency in blog posting had something to do with this conference I organized for a patient advocacy group last weekend.
I always have incredibly mixed feelings about working with Naevus 2000 France-Europe. I’ve seen them grow up from a fledgling group, because they got (re-)started at about the same time as the birth of my daughter with her very own giant congenital nevus. For those of you on the ball, you’ll see I was a bit redundant there, but there’s always that word “congenital” in there, no matter which way you scramble “nevus”, “giant”, and sometimes, “melanocytic”. She also has now about 200 “satellites” – randomly sized, smaller nevi that reveal themselves in the first few years of life.
My mixed feelings come from wanting too much, and not wanting to be involved with a patient advocacy group, all at the same time. It’s a little hard to explain.
(As an aside, my girl is perfectly gorgeous. Her mix of remaining nevi and surgical scars have not prevented her from being elected class delegate to her school council – everyone can get used to a kid who looks different, and she is not as handicapped as many others.)
Every year, I attend the general assembly of the group. Every year, I wish this could be a more professional organization. And at the same time, I like to be needed, although I also like to be in control of how much I respond to the neediness. I like not being just another mother-of-a-kid-with-a-worrisome-malformation. I am their only interface with researchers at all, and a rare translater for them for the multiple medical disciplines that can step in to take care of a child with a congenital giant nevus – pediatricians, dermatologists, plastic surgeons, and neurologists, for the most part.
Every other year on top of that, I take out my e-mail management system and scrounge up my contacts among French-speaking doctors and among researchers in pigment cell biology, and I convince some of them to come talk with this group of mostly parents, but some adult patients as well. Usually the association manages to organize alternative activities for the children. They’ve definitely gotten better at the infrastructure aspects of putting on a conference. The first conference I organized, I did everything – travel arrangements, hotel rooms, badges, an attractive programme – as a satellite symposium to the International Pigment Cell Conference in the Netherlands, and it was therefore in English and apart from the general assembly of the association. A good experience, but never again to that level of detail. I’ve learned since that it is possible to subcontract nearly everything for a price.
This was a year of drumming up contacts once more, and MC’ing their presentations to put them in context for the families. But as they say in French, the mayonnaise seems to be taking. (By stint of beating everyone enough?) A few surgeons and a very dedicated dermatologist and pigment cell researcher, and a couple of other researchers, are now regulars. They greet each other and the association president by their first names. They don’t slip away at the coffee break, but field questions well and beyond the call of duty.
Beyond that, I was very pleased this year that the requisite invitations to our sister organizations in other countries was accepted this year not just by one, but by two groups: Naevus Italia, a newer association in (you guessed it) Italy, and Nevus Outreach, a more experienced and larger-scale group in the U.S. I had been following the latter’s ventures for a number of years and have had the privilege of being on a sort of long-distance consulting and science/medicine brainstorming group for them the last couple of those years. The former’s president speaks a more than serviceable French, and the latter’s executive director was sufficiently courageous to prepare a speech in French phonetically. (It was very successful.)
Anyhow, the executive director and his daughter have been staying with us since last Friday. It’s vastly more entertaining to speak with them than it is to write my n’th grant, for which my kind collaborator-to-be has told me that I’m a “trooper”.
I mentioned to Mark that it had been a long time since I made a new friend, and how pleasant it was.
Before he figured out that I was referring to himself, he said, “Facebook friend or real friend?” Or maybe he had figured it out, but he’s quite the entertainer.
Real friend, of course. They’re even typing away quietly on their laptops so that I should get the grant done. So, with that, signing off for now.
Right now as I type, I am shuttling between laptop windows while nursing my foot, a cup of coffee at hand.








